So I grew up in an overweight family and I lived in the rural part so yeah a lot of people were a bit chubbier. I moved to the city (Vienna) and I live in Austria. The people here are relatively slim on average but within the inner districts of the city it's very uncommon to see folks who are overweight. Ofc every once in a while there will be someone who fits that but on average people are lean.
I happen to move to the inner districts where the people are on average are very slim. It's relatively normal to see people on bikes, jogging , ofc everyone walks since its so walkable and people eat healthily. I used to also work near by in a rather wealthier area. Diet conversations were a daily thing at work, what you eat, the calories, the health of that food the vitamins since it's an upscale area people were even more fit. I'm in no way wealthy nor did I grow up that way. In fact when I started working there at just 19 I qualified as almost obese.
It was all very surprising to me because in my previous environment weight wasn't such a topic or food value or exercise. Now I was in an environment where young people would talk about these things very openly. It definitely subconsciously effected me because I felt the pressure to fit in. I felt like the odd one out. Once I blended in rather well in my environment. In this place I was sticking out like a sore thumb, in no way in a good way.
I got along with my co-workers tough and she was very fit. We would get lunch toghether and I started to eat healthier. In addition because of the pressure and also better availability I started walking a lot. I would get told to lose weight by those few coworkers because Im young and my life will be better. I definitely needed that. Honestly maybe its unhealthy mentally but it rly kept me in line to be in such environments. When I lost weight I got immiadete positive feedback, when I ate healthy and when I gained weight I was asked if I was stressed or what was going one. Honestly ever since moving here I never became anything close to obese again. Being around people who watched what they ate and openly admitted to eating for health and looks and not taste was eye opening because I used to believe slim people just eat whatever.
That girl told me when she's around these very beautiful skinny women and they post all their pastas etc at restaurants that they only take a few bites at most and then eat something healthier with less calories and leave the plate almost full. I was like ohhhhhh.
Im always held accountable when I let go of myself here and I used to fear it and it would trigger me but at this point I rly love people who do that tp me ofc not in a mean way but as in pressuring me slightly. I love that I have a friends who will bring up eating habits, thsy usually talk abt themselves but then I can chime in and talk abt my emotional eating and my fit friends will help me how to deal with it or friends that bring up exercising a lot and we do it toghether. I love that. I wasn't held accountable as a teenagee by parents or anything. My parents would just say it's because of genes and hypothyroidism and I eat so litte. Everyone else would avoid this topic around me.
I needed tough love and Im starting to see it now. I thought it was very kind of someone to accept me for who I am but now Im seeing its even kinder if they care enough abt my wellbeing to nudge me into the direction that is good for me. I am rambling but it's rly a big change in my thinking. I used to be an avid believer of fatshaming and that people were judgy but now Im glad they are to a certain extent (ofc I don't think people should ever treat someone bad because of their weight ever) but unhealthy habits shouldn't be just accepted and a better lifestyle should be aspired towards.
I used to think overeating was a treat or like something nice I was doing for myself when in reality Im harming myself. Not just because people judge me or Im seen as bad but it's genuienly hurting me especially as someone who loves moving. Realizing this rly changes a lot. I picked up a lot of negative habits from parents were overeating was the norm, not moving and making excuses for weightgain. Yeah I know I rambled but felt like sharing my thoughts.
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