for a bit of context im a teenager (so PLEASE be respectful😭) and me & my mom were arguing over this the other day. what she told me really made me sad and now i feel absolutely embarrassed and demotivated :( this is really just a rant but im looking for both advice and maybe some support. the last post i did here was really successful and everyone was nice!
for a lot of my life, i’ve been on the bigger side and have had a horrible diet. obviously, this came with bullying, shame and various other health problems - gut issues especially - so im trying to lose weight with the new year. because of my genetics on my dad’s side, i naturally have a larger chest area which is horrible for me. i experience constant back pain and im 99% sure they’re worth a whole t-shirt size. im also, as you can imagine, treated differently.
i think its important to mention that my mom has always been weird about this. she’s also bigger but we have very different proportions, so she can’t relate to the problems i experience. we were driving to the doctor’s office and i was telling her about how i want to get down to a medium-ish size in shirts so i can finally wear the clothing i want after about four years of being too shy to change out of a sweater. instead of being kind to me about it, she immediately told me she doesn’t think i can do that because of my chest and that this will be a lifelong issue for me. she then went on to say that, sure, my waist will be a smaller size, but i’ll never shrink my upper torso. she even suggested breast reduction surgery.
am i crazy? i feel like she was passive aggressive towards the topic and basically just told me my goals can never be met. i know ill never be completely flat like a board because the breast area isn’t JUST fat but i’ve always felt like i can, at the very least, cut down on the fat in the area. like i said, im really saddened by her kinda hostile reaction and now i dont know what my goals look like ☹️
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