I (20F) have been a "big kid" my whole life. Not obese, but certainly overweight and chubby from as young as I can remember. Never was I picked for the sports teams at school, and was always last in line for the participation award in athletics events. I was experiencing such a deep depression which was amplified by how uncomfortable I was in my own body. When I was 18, I left an abusive and coercive relationship where I smoked weed constantly, then found comfort by heavily drinking which left me at one of the heaviest weights I have ever been (187lbs/85kg, 166cm/5'5). The amount of comments I was getting from family and friends regarding my weight, watching my peers excel in athletics and really grow into theirselves made me finally realise I had to do something. I was so fatigued all the time, and after saying "I'll start tomorrow" for the last time, I decided to make a change.
Fast forward 9 months from when I started my journey, I have lost 33lbs/15kg of fat and adopted a completely new lifestyle. I do pilates everyday and maintain a very active lifestyle. I have goals I feel are obtainable now like HYROX, 5Ks and half-marathons. Within this time I have also fallen in love with someone who motivates me to do better and keep that perfect balance. For the first time in my life I am fitting into an AU size 8 (US size 4).
ANYWAYS. I keep a small, private circle on social media with friends and family. I never really post myself, but for the first time in ages posted a collection of photos with a few new friends where I'm all done up. A lot of positive messages started flowing in from old friends who haven't seen me in forever, telling me how happy they are to see me glowing like this, etc. Then come the comments from my family..
I haven't seen majority of them in over 10 months (so when I weighed significantly more). Screenshots of me in the posts were shared to family group chats, to which members responded with various comments on how I looked. My mum was definitely positive and proud. But then others.. "She doesn't look that good, you know these young women with photoshop." "FaceTune!" "Has she has plastic surgery/work done?"
I am completely natural and have lost my weight through CICO and exercise. NEVER in my life has I used any FaceTune or photoshop to change the way I look, especially not to impress the small circle of people I have on social media. At first I was shocked and my jaw literally dropped hearing/reading these comments, not neccesqrily expecting them to praise me at all but certainly not expecting this. I come from a family of incredibly vain women who have made comments on what I look like from as young as 6 years old. Of course I didn't react to anything and chose to ignore it, but each time I look at myself in the mirror and the photos I think of what they have said.
Did they not believe I could ever do it, are they jealous, should I be taking this as a compliment? I wonder how many of you have had a similar experience.
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