i (22f) have been kind of fat my whole life but never too majorly un happy about it. i don’t care about what i look like and im working on myself. what annoys me the most is when people feel the need to let me know im fat or ask me what happened or give me diet advice. like actually fuck off idgaf if its from good intentions mind ur business i don’t think the way i look really should not matter that much to U. i get preferences when dating and all but this isn’t that.
last year i went on a trip back to my home country and was absolutely violated by everyone. the first day there i was being reminded of my fatness from my uncles, aunties and gradmas i ended up having a massive panic attack and sleeping for like 16 hours. in that same trip, one of my dads babysitters from when he was a child came up to me, someone i had NEVER met before, perhaps when i was a newborn as i had left the country pretty young. she made sure to let me know i had gotten so ugly and fat since i was a baby all while being a 60something miserable looking bitch with a receding hairline and fucked wig. it was humiliating and wasn’t private, she said it in front of everyone. by the end of the trip i had lost so much weight from under eating
this post was sparked by something that happened 30 minutes ago. i am working an event and met someone new. i was explaining that im a vegetarian and got food from outside the venue and when she found out. she went on a whole rant about how she’s 37 and looks so young because she eats meat and she went through a month where she was vegetarian and just gained weight and that’s why i’m fat now. i don’t get what warrants people to do shit like this. i don’t know u and u don’t know my history or health issues as to why i am fat and so what? what’s so scary and disgusting about not being skinny?
part of me blames myself for feeling this way. i am fat and now unhappy about it and am “losing weight” but its more about the principle to me. i’ve gone my whole life being told im too big when i really wasn’t, over ate and now i am actually fat and have a shit relationship with food. i acknowledged it and im trying to work on it, so leave me alone. and i don’t think it’s a concern for my health when i don’t have any major issues aside from low iron and vitamin, i am working on AND I DONT KNOW U (in regards to the girl im working with) and there is more to me than the way i look. it also kinda gives “oh hey im just letting u know i think ur fat (which i know) AND ur ugly cus ur fat ☺️”
this was long i hope someone can relate to this and also hope this is a good sub to put this in xxxx
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