While I was obese, my family were quietly disapproving. Once I started losing weight my family were very supportive and encouraging. It was lovely to have such support and it was motivating.
Now, I am still overweight and I am not even near the healthy weight category yet. Yet, the pushback has begun.
For some context, when I was a teenager I hovered around the border of a healthy and overweight BMI, my family, mostly my mum and grandma, pushed back hard at any of my attempts to lose weight. They would both 'force' me to eat with social context and pressure, comment on how I wasn't eating enough, ask me about what I had eaten, tell me I am 'wasting away'. As a teenager, this just pushed me to be more secretive in my weight loss and restricting severely whenever I wasn't being watched. I eventually developed bulimia partly out of anger of being pressured into eating.
Now I'm an adult, I have a lot more control over my eating habits. But, I am pretty afraid of a reemergence of the pressure I had as a teenager.
My mum cracked first, and I've just had the first few disapproving comments about my 'dissapearing', over-concern about my plans for my meal later that day, asking me about my clothing sizes, and self-critique of her own body and weight gain (which btw isn't noticeable if there is any, she is much slimmer than me and always has been).
A few more pounds and I know my grandma will start pushing back too, and she is much more vicious in her 'concern'.
I don't want to avoid them, we had a great relationship while I was obese/more overweight and they weren't focusing on my body and eating. The loss of support for my weight loss also hurts too, it was so motivating being praised for my hard work. I need some advice and to hear other people's experiences of how they deal with this and stay motivated, or if it is even a common thing. For myself, I have accepted it as a fact of life but I'm not sure how normal it is.
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from loseit - Lose the Fat https://www.reddit.com/r/loseit/comments/tj84iv/how_to_cope_with_sabotage_from_family_tw_ed/
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