He’s 84. His truck was outside my complex, my bf was going to help him do housework and also take me to work beforehand. His uncle sees me, and says “why she look like a bag of bones, why she sooo skinny?”
I then walk past to get into the seat, and he goes on “you know, men don’t like skinny women, you were better before, look at your face! Are you Annie rexic? I mean, are you? You weren’t fat and now you’re too skinny. What the hell happened to you?”
He went on more, but I forgot exactly what else he said.
I’m literally 149 lbs at 5’8”. I’m not even skinny. I’m just, normal. I know it’s just because he’s an old man lol, but it caught me soooo off guard.
I then hear from my boyfriend’s grandma later on, that he is genuinely concerned for me and that he didn’t know who told me I was fat before. He says my face is getting thin and he’s concerned. I tried to stifle my smile. This is ridiculous. Both of them, are acting like I’m consumptive and that I’m reminding them of my boyfriend’s dying anorexic aunt with me losing weight.
As a woman who has struggled with eating disorders it’s insulting…..like it’s trivializing the disorder. Not the aunt, but them comparing me to her. Like mam….I was bulimic in my senior year of high school and my mom told me I was fat and sloppy at a 17 bmi. I’ve had a lot of issues. My weight has fluctuated by 90 fucking lbs.
I’ve been around this ring lol. Having low self esteem+ no nutritional knowledge+ a mom that literally makes you do OMAD for ants as a growing teenager and wants you to look like Russian bonespo Instagram+ not knowing anything about nutrition so it quickly goes to shit when you leave home and you have access to food does shit to you.
I finally have a normal relationship with food. I didn’t have that growing up. When I left my mom I quickly gained wayyy too much weight and now I’m getting back to what I’m supposed to be.
I was definitely overweight (when the uncle said I was better), after a lifetime of not being overweight, and now I’m back to my sort of normal. I want to lose maybe 10-20 lbs, and then I’ll be in just the perfect place for my body.
Thought I’d share because….I vent on this account about the strange, strange people in my life.
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