For context, I was raised in a family where nobody ever made comments about anybody's body, like ever. I'm glad that I didn't have an almond mom to constantly scrutinize my appearance, but on the other hand, I ended up incredibly unprepared for how to handle it when people DID start to make comments on my body.
That being said, it's not like when I was overweight anybody was calling me names or anything. But now I've lost over 30 pounds since September, and I feel like every person I see cannot stop commenting on my weight loss.
I get it, it's meant to be a compliment, but it really just makes me feel like "wow I guess I really looked to terrible before". When I look at photos of myself 30 pounds ago, I still think she is pretty and I don't really feel any differently about my body now as I did then (in a good way, I never hated my body, I started losing weight for health reasons connected to fertility).
I feel like the first 10 minutes of every interaction I have is just flooded with "wow you look so much better! How did you do it? What are you eating? You're getting in shape so you look good on your wedding day right?" and it's so draining. I mainly just try to cut the conversation short with "I've been going on runs and eating more protein" and just repeating that until they shut up.
Why am I so self conscious about this? Before I lost weight I thought I'd be living for these comments, but now that they are happening I find myself wearing loose fitting clothes in the hopes that people don't notice I've lost weight. Can't I just get healthier without people pointing out how much less attractive they thought I was before?
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