Hey all! My first post here looking for some advice.
My(27F) long time partner (27M) has recently started to workout and eat healthily and in a calorie deficit just about 3 weeks ago.
He’s about 100kg (220lbs) with a BMI of about 34-35. He’s struggled with his weight all his life, mostly genetics activated by a poor lifestyle. He used to eat a lot of take out (not all fast food, but not necessarily low cal) and did no exercise. He’s never been very athletic. This time around, I do find him to be more motivated than before. He’s been working out 4-5 times a week. mostly weight training with a personal trainer, and eating a protein rich diet in a calorie deficit. He’s also intermittent fasting and finds his energy levels better through the day and has no issue maintaining it.
The difficulty is that because he’s pretty heavy he’s expecting the weight to drop off pretty quickly. Not that he expects this to be a quick process, but he expects to see some progress on the scale every time he weighs in. I wouldn’t say I know enough to advise him but I try to tell him that he shouldn’t weigh himself everyday, which he does for the most part, and disappoints him. I suggest that he’s also going to be slowly gaining muscle, and it might not always show on the scale since muscle weighs more than fat, and he should focus on how he feels and how his clothes gradually fit better and eventually he sizes down. I know that it’s only been 3 weeks, but I think he’s hoping to lose a 1ln or so a week, so at least see a difference on the scale in the right direction. And I don’t want him to quit before he can see his work paying off.
We’re really keen for him to reach a healthier weight and life a healthier lifestyle since we hope to get married in the next couple of years. I’m a medical student and health is really important to me.
My question is mainly, was your journey similar to this? was there any information you came across that made you grasp a realistic timeline, or set expectations of your progress that I could share with him? are there any glaring mistakes in what he might be doing? There’s so much different info online it’s hard to sift through what I could say to help him!
I do encourage him, tell him I’m proud, and check in about how his diet and work out is going. I encourage him to focus on building sustainable habits, and that our main goal is a healthier lifestyle and body, not just weight loss, which I feel is his main concern. I’ve never been overweight so I do feel I lack some insight into his frustrations and thinking thought I try my best.
All info appreciated! Thank you!
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