My girlfriend (28mtf) and I (24f) have been together for 4 years. My gf is currently unemployed (has been for a year), and I work in a very fast-paced research laboratory (which I’m thinking of quitting due to strains on my mental health and work-life balance).
I have been overweight (currently 260lbs at 5’4”) for nearly my entire life, with the exception of my undergrad years. My gf has always been slender and at a healthy weight. Ya’ll can probably see where this is going.
We met when I was in undergrad and fit. Now 4 years later, we are very serious about each other. She’s brought up her concerns about my health, which I believe she has the right to do. So after a serious convo, I decided to start an exercise/diet regimen for the sake of my longevity and our relationship.
My weight loss has been really slow, as it’s been difficult with the demands of my job and keeping up with the maintenance of our home. Most days I come home and straight to bed. But I have managed to lose about 20lbs in the last few months, so I’m proud of my small accomplishment.
But things just don’t seem to be going “fast enough” for my gf. She always makes comments about the food I eat and asks about my weight daily. She also talks about excited she’ll be when I get back down to my “sexy” undergrad size again. She also talks about how she can stay healthy, but I always remind her that since I have a job, I have less time and more barriers. When I mentioned that her saying/asking these things wasn’t helping me, she asked me if I could instead log everything in a book for her to review every week to see my progress.
It’s been incredibly emotional and frustrating to deal with this. Just when I thought I was making progress, she talks about the book bs and makes me feel like she doesn’t trust me or something. I know intentions are good, but it really impacts my self esteem. I’ve mentioned this and she just gets frustrated. Ugh. Anyone else experience a weight loss journey that impacted your romantic relationship? Also, am I just being whiny?
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