hey guys, idk if this is the right place to post this but i just wanted to kinda rant 😭
so im currently on a 2 week vacay in cali to visit my dad's side relatives (aunt, uncle, and grandma that live together) and they LOVE to tell me im fat at any chance they can. ive visited over the summer ocassionally over the years as ive grown up as a kid and they've always have told me im fat (even when i wasnt fat and was at a totally normal weight) and ive always thought this was the asian thing where they'll tell u ur fat and then tell u to eat but over the past 2 visits in the summer ive realized how toxic this is😭. especially this summer because i gained a lot of weight senior year of highschool (im a freshman in college rn) during the time i didnt see them so i was dreading the trip and rightfully so😔.
some examples: calling/comparing me to a pig, seal, a balloon, etc. yesterday i woke up at 7am and went to 5 places w them and my aunt wanted to go to a outlet mall nearby and i told her i wanted to go home bc i was tired and wanted to nap and so we went home. when we got back (at 4pm) she complained abt how i was tired bc im fat. they also like to comment about anything i eat that they dont offer. more ex: my grandma complaininf abt the sugar in the tiramisu when i asked if she wanted to try some since i made it. ex: the one time i wear smtg sleeveless my aunt talks abt how big my arms are and that i should diet. ex: aunt thinks i have pcos bc i supposedly have a hard time losing weight (i havent even been trying bc i was busy w school). all these examples are just from this trip but last time i visited 2 years ago in the summer they tried to get me on the scale so they could see. this is all i remember/ranted to my friends about but there's probably a lot more.
i actually kept tally of how often they comment abt weight from june 20th to today: its been everyday, 5, 4, 2, 2, 3, 2, 1, 2.
i think im completely blessed to have never had an ed with the environment i grew up😭
to my fellow asians is this normal to u too or is it just my relatives??
//extra😍: they also love to attack and criticize every part of my life including: my hand ezcema, how i dont dry my hair w a hair dryer, how i take naps, how i wake up late, my lack of scholarships and have not once asked me about my hobbies, school, and friends but will get mad at me and call me picky for not liking anything they give me but then also tell me to only take what i like. they love to laugh and complain about anything i do really. and they claim its for my good.
tldr: im on vacay to visit relatives and theyve always told me im fat even as a kid growing up but ive just realized how bad it really is. (telling me im fat 1-5xs a day, calling me a pig, seal balloon, etc) and im no longer hurt by it like i was as a kid but im just annoyed now. it gets tiring being constantly laughed at, a topic to complain about how the younger generation blah blah, im just tired of it all and they wonder why i dont want to talk to them and stay holed up in my room.
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