My BF lives a rather active lifestyle, but since a year a go hes gained substantial weight due to covid lockdowns. (He's 6' / 216lbs)
TIMELINE
January, I refrained myself from any repulsive language EG. "your fat" and stuff but I would constantly call him "chonk" (jokingly) and tell him that he needs to do something about his weight(jokingly). The more I nagged however, nothing changed. He would always say sure and do it for a week and give up.
July (Intervention), I was starting to get annoyed and told him he seriously needs a intervention. My mom is sponsoring his trip to the US for holiday. I searched for a attainable weight loss goal and firmly told him that if only you were to loose 8-9kg / 17.6-19.8lbs (Goal weight : 90kg / 198.4lbs ) within the 5-6 months we have left, you can go. The goal was never to be skinny, it was just to not be too overweight and preventing it getting worse from there. He'll always be slightly heavier than the norm, but that literally isnt an issue as hes big boned and muscular built. Plus whats wrong with having a bit of fluff?
Current, Anyway, he still goes out and drinks (once-twice a week with friends) and drinks a beer or 2 every other day-ish. He calorie counted for 2 weeks and quit. He ate chicken breast form time to time for a month and then quit. He lost around 4kg within the first 2 weeks from calorie counting which shocked both of us and i was proud of him! But the 2 months following that hes stayed the same or gained a little again.
***Today (***2.5 months post Intervention). He says he hasn't been eating bad but he also hasn't been eating clean either. He says its hard and hes still somewhat trying. So I try to understand by factoring in his background, as he grew up in a household who eats way bigger portions than me (and is still living there), and how his kitchen is under construction now for 3 weeks (he only has a grill outside, electrical appliances and no stove, oven etc).
Thoughts and Reflection, I feel like he doesn't see it as that big of a deal and kind of dismisses me most times. But when i comment hes not trying hard enough, he either says his in denial or hes offended that im not seeing him trying. The people around me are all starting very planned out eating habits to loose weight (family/couple of friends). And it does feel abit discouraging as im trying to get my BF to do the same for almost a whole damn year but idk if he doesn't have the discipline to do it or is it just too hard for him? :(
TLDR: What is a good way to motivate him to take things seriously without over stepping boundaries?
Thanks guys <3
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