My dad told me "I need to put some meat on my bones I lost too much weight". I'm still fatter than my sister and she is "perfect, as she has always been"
Sorry for the rant. It rubs me the wrong way for several hours now.
My father is obese. He refuses to make any of the small fixes both me and my mom recommended. We gave up some time ago.
I lost around 50 pounds in the last 7-8 months and I still have 10-15 to lose. I go to the gym 3 times a week and eat only good stuff for the most part. Weekends are a bit loose and that's annoying but that's it.
Yesterday I was shopping with both my dad and mom for the first time in a long time and my dad just threw some jam and candies and said "you need to put some meat on your bones. You lost too much weight. You look "aschilambic" (romanian word for anorexic, but derogatory and not seen as an illness). I said "I still have to lose" and went into details but he just said I am crazy. Back home he put the cakes we bought on the table and was trying to put more in my plate. He usually throws additional food in ny plate and my mom tells him to stop. Today I heard him tell my mother he is worried I will disappear. I am at 65 kg for 1.68, bmi 23, I have one fat roll to go and my pants are 38.
What I hate the most is that my sister has never been above 60 kg at the same height and wore pants 36 forever and he always said she "has a perfect body". Hell my mother was 60 kg at 1.76m when they married and she looked way skinnier than me now, yet "he married a model". His mistress was skinny, he introduced her to me thinking I won't connect the dots - he is currently into women way skinnier than me wtf. Why the fuck does he think I am dying when every women he complimented on their appearance was way skinnier than me??
I'm a bit pissed off he enabled my sugar addiction for so long. My childhood consisted of my mom putting me on healthy diets and my father undoing it to make me temporarily happy. Jesus why didn't they talk to one another. I was the fat kid and I had the genetics excuse and despite losing weight 3 4 times and seeing multiple nutritionists I was always kept under the impression that I am the fat kid. Then God Forbit I got intentional about my body and went all the way down from 91kg to 65kg. I want to be 57-60kg slim, aka perfect weight by all calculators. I'm not anorexic, I'm not insane and I am so annoyed he thinks otherwise.
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